Originally Posted by
Astrosmurf 
The biggest thing I get from this is that three months really isn't long enough - but the underlying things are being addressed by her in counselling. Still, you are right about all the red flags.
Believe me when I say that "addressing" underlying issues in counseling is going to take a long time.
I am a recovering addict/alcoholic, and I've been in therapy/counseling off and on for the past 17 years.
The worst thing an addict can do early in recovery is get into a relationship. I know that one from personal experience. I eventually used/drank again, and was extremely fortunate in that I made it back into recovery. Many don't after relapsing.
At 3 months clean/sober, I couldn't even identify the feelings that I was having 99% of the time.
What I did find is that relationships "felt good", but boy did I set myself up in the end, and it was not worth the relapse. Relationships distracted me from the work at hand in my recovery.
Just my two cents.
