I'm an ACOA but I swear I was born codependent. I was always trying to put bandaids on family dramas and all along pretending the dramas weren't there. Feeling isolated even at an early stage but one incident that stands out in my mind was when my AF who was drunk at the time asked me to help him fix his life, mind you I was 15 at the time and I had no answer to give him. He died 2 yrs later and the feeling of letting him down that somehow I could have saved him haunted me my whole life.