Hi gds
welcome to SR
Altho I was single when I started recovery, many of my loved ones were not supportive either....if change is scary for us, it must be doubly so for them - cos without being in our heads they only have half the story....
It all worked out tho - eventually even they couldn't argue recovery/not drinking was really doing wonders for me
I hope it will be the same for you and your wife
In the meantime, you'll always find support here - 24/7
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