Originally Posted by
onlythetruth 
I agree with this. Motivation is absolutely central, and it's one thing I honestly believe we all share. I've never known anyone to quit drinking who did not want to quit drinking.
In my case, I wanted to quit drinking for YEARS before I actually did so. The problem wasn't that I didn't want to quit, it was that I wanted to drink MORE than I wanted to quit.
Even with motivation, it's damn hard to quit, so it helps to have tools, but...we have to be motivated in order to use them.
I was in that awkward, middle of the road place for a very long time where I sincerely wanted to quit but couldn't figure out how to actually have some semblance of happiness with zero chemical enhancement. I wanted to have my cake and eat it to. It wasn't until the withdrawal periods and depression started to get worse and worse that I finally threw in the towel. Depression/anxiety and a sense of impending doom started to become a part of detox and those things alone were powerful motivators.