I feel your pain my friend.....I too have three children 11, 7 and 5 and my husband is an alcoholic. He also drinks every evening after work....two bottles of wine a night! he is hostile and "off" with me......I have learnt alot on my journey and I am getting better and better at detatching but it sure isn't easy and with young children it is a constant struggle.
I love him BUT I hate the alcoholism and what it does to us as a couple and as a family. I am in the process of planning my exit from this dysfunctional marriage. I deserve better and so do our beautiful children.
More folks will be along shortly with posts for you. This place is an absolute lifeline :0).
Take care of you Phiz :0)