I have to stay watchful every I am in the world, and especially when I know I'm going to be near manipulators. I ask God for help, and everything I already know inside of me tends to come up better. Sometimes every hour I have to go into bathroom, get on knees, and ask Him to be my Coat of Armor again.
Knowing that it's a spiritual crime to give others relief from their own pain that might get them to God, I am let of the hook from codependent behaviors.
The boundary is NOT that "I won't let them do that to me, the boundary is, "I don't want to help anyone hurt themselves today."
This is all pretty new stuff to me too, and I like to notice the 25% of the time I do it well.