i used to yell and scream back when my ah got to this point - it's always the same things - he paid off the mortgage, i supposedly slept with married men 20 years ago before we were married (so he says he heard from other people and says he still hears about - yeah right)!
we haven't had one of those outbursts since i have started going to al-anon so i am hoping when the time comes i will react much differently. i hope i can get to the point where i am callous and it blows over my head.
cwohio