How long for damage control?
My 13 year sober husband relapsed very hard a few months ago and is so far down the rabbit hole now, he may never get back. We are in divorce proceedings...it is much too much for me to contend with. I have a no contact order with him.
He turned into a person I can't recognize in any way now. Such crazy things he says. He's calling my friends, to get them to "mediate" a discussion between us (we both have attorneys) interpretation: he wants my best friends to convince me it will be ok if he just walks away, and leaves me with nothing and no health insurance. (after two recent surgeries)
Ok..as if that weren't crazy enough...he's private messaging the 23 yr old daughter of a two decades long friend of mine. She is completely weirded out by it...he keeps wanting to come over and help her with stuff (Facebook) He is 52. I'm so creeped out.
I realize I cannot control his behavior. I cannot protect whatever may be left of his reputation. BUT...can somebody tell me two things: are these crazy behaviors the real him, that have been revealed by the drinking now? And how long, really, am I going to have to do damage control when I don't even live with him anymore? I have to wonder how many other people he is contacting I don't know about. He may not have awareness that he's damaged his reputation completely, but I'm a professional business owner and my reputation is very important. These crazy things he is doing is NOTHING like anything I could ever imagine he would do...
Trying to untangle this....