Elaine,
The old saying "Sticks and stones..." applies in that situation. When I started learning to love myself, what others said stopped having world stopping power. Realizing that others strike out in pain and sickness, and not taking it personally has helped me too.
LST,
It is hard to switch modes from sober to not. I can detach from the disease, then get some hope and feel like a yoyo. I have had to learn to detach from the sober too. I live one day at a time, enjoy the good, and don't expect it for anymore than today. Then I don't get disappointed, frustrated, or angry. That has taken time to learn. Don't give up. Keep seeking support. Hugs, Magic