Originally Posted by
suki44883 
You are getting a glimpse of what life with an addict is like.
"Glimpse" is the operative word, as in
tip-of-the-iceberg.
Work with RE-AL-I-TY, not WHAT-YOU-HOPE-COULD-BE.
You are at a critical crossroads that will determine the quality of your life for the majority of your adult youth.
When you figure an addict stops maturing at the age they start using, this means they have a lot of work after getting clean to go back and learn life skills rather than using smoke screens of "Mr. Perfect" or "Mr. Wounded" or "Mr. Anything Else That Hooks a Partner" and coping skills of escape through using. This is nearly impossible to do for addicts when in relationships - they need first to develop themself and work on their own life skills before having anything to do with another person.
CLMI