Originally Posted by
PerhapsLove 
Sorry that I am repeating posts. I've never done this before and can't figure out how to delete the duplicates!
No worries! I've done it myself before. There is no way to delete duplicates unless a moderator does it.
As for you being responsible for her downfall if you use tough love, that is just not true.
Alcoholism/addiction is a progressive disease, that is it only gets worse, never better if left untreated.
She's been in rehab 3 times. She knows the drill. She isn't willing to do the work in recovery.
I can tell you that my parents almost loved me to death.
I watched it happen firsthand where I live with an addict who never did without, thanks to her parents. They financed two businesses for her, and paid for rehab over a dozen times.
Fortunately that addict's father passed away before she did, so he didn't have to bury his daughter. However, her mother did get to bury her.
She was never allowed to feel the full consequences of her addiction.