Originally Posted by
skippernlilg 
DVM2015: What a great goal for you!!
Ah, see? His heart isn't his to give to you or anyone else right now. He's looking for it, and with a recovering A, there is no guarantee of if/when they will even find it.
I'm sorry you're going through this trouble. Focus on what's good in YOUR life, and find out about Al-anon nearby. The face to face support is immeasurable in its worth!
To Skippernlilg: do you have any experience with recovering alcoholics shutting people they love?? Id like to hear if anyone else ever got over that difficult stage in their recovery or if that is common with recovering alcoholics. With so many unknowns, I dont wanna close all doors but I dont wanna remain hopeful and then get hurt. Also... we arent even speaking as of now because its too painful for me. Do you think an Al-anon meeting would help even though hes not physically in my life anymore? I feel as if maybe its too late for that but I dont have experience or know about that much either.