Originally Posted by
Impurrfect 
(((Florence))) - I don't think you're being unreasonable at all. Some relationships can survive addiction and recovery, for others, by the time recovery is started, it's "too little too late" and the damage has been done.
This resonated with me. Especially as I face one year of sobriety with my RAH and nothing has changed except that he isn't drinking. Behavior remains inconsistent, resentments are still firmly in place, and I am another year older.
Florence, I can relate to the feeling of frustration...and I am at the point of wondering just how fair this is to HIM, much less ME, to continue to be so vastly different with our needs and expectations for a marriage.
Just something I am pondering. It takes time to grow up. How much time do you have to give to that process? I don't think I have any more time left.
TWWALTR,
~T