Bayliss...17 months ago my husband and I decided it was best that we 'officially' separated. I had drank all of my adult life, he knew I drank when we met...we still married. Nothing got better...and nothing changed. I found myself in the same cycles, the same thoughts, the same habits...it wasn't until we separated that I got it. It still took me 4 months after I was out on my own but it's been a year this month that I've been sober. It was the best move I ever made.