Originally Posted by
am77 
I know that it is not my fault that I have been lied to and misled but I'm having a hard time not feeling guilty about putting my daughter through this. Letting her become attached to someone that has such a problem. I know that we will get through this. Thank you all for your support. I greatly need it and appreciate it.
One time, a long time ago, I made this same mistake when my son was small. It was so painful...I truly empathize with what you are going through. But here is one thing I really learned from allowing my son to get attached to someone before I was SURE of where the relationship was headed....NEVER do it again, and I never did. I think my wishing and hoping that "he" would see us as a family was just more pink cloud thinking on my part...with devastating consequences in experiencing my own pain and my innocent son's too. This is how we learn in life. When we know better, we do better. Don't beat yourself on this...it is lesson learned!