One more thing...not sure if anyone has heard this before...
I always get into it with my Mom...and she always says to me after an argument:
"You can sit there and yell and b*%tch at me but you can never stand up for yourself when it comes to other people."
She is right...maybe because I know she will love me regardless...but I need to set boundaries...if I want to achieve total sobriety...I NEED to set boundaries in this house.