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Old 01-01-2012, 08:50 AM
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Mammyof3boys
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Thanks so much for the advice.

Originally Posted by sadsoul2011 View Post
Congrats on the 7 days - you're doing great!!! You should feel very proud of yourself.

Please don't be so hard on yourself and expect too much from yourself and your life right now. You're on the right track and still so early in your sobriety. Over the next few months, aspects of your life will change and you'll slowly settle into your new, happy sober life.

In the meantime, keep doing your usual things/duties as a mom etc... AND add in some activities that you like to do. Try to remember back to earlier hobbies you liked, pick up a book, rent movies, go to sleep earlier, go for a walk, play a game with your kids, make a special meal, read and post on SR (very helpful), etc...

Don't put pressure on yourself to know how everything is going to be in the future....just find ways to enjoy each day as much as you can right now. The big picture will slowly reveal itself.

Another tip is to practice gratitude. Make sure to visit the threads on gratitude. You'll see your life in an much softer, sweeter light!!

Keep posting and letting us know how you're doing

p.s. Do you have any plans for a special, sober NYE? It may lighten your mood to plan something fun... No need to feel bummed out - YOU'RE SOBER BECAUSE YOU CHOOSE TO BE!!!

I'm going to play games and watch movies with the kids, eat yummy snacks and bang pots and pans at midnight while enjoying sparkling apple juice. I don't know how old your boys are, but if they're old enough they may get a kick out of banging the pans LOL. If they're too young then you get to plan a wonderful adult evening - good movies, snacks and watching the ball drop all while sober and curled up on the comfy sofa.

Think about how incredible Jan. 1st will feel !!
Thank you "sadsoul2011" January 1st feels awesome. You are so right as I am very hard on myself in every aspect of life, especially as a Mother.
And I am enjoying each day so far clear and without a hangover, I must admit it feels great. I am taking my older boys to the movies now, we havent been since July.
Happy start to 2012!!
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