Alcohol is not a reward to an alcoholic. It is the key to the gates of hell. Stop romanticizing drinking alcohol. Just because your husband drinks like a non-alcoholic doesn't mean there is anything special about being able to drink alcohol responsibly. If you were allergic to peanuts, knowing if you ate a peanut butter sandwich you would be in the hospital, would you be asking these same questions? Would you wonder why you can't reward yourself with a peanut butter sandwich after a hard day at work?