also, I do believe that dysfunction rolls on down the line, through ancestry in some cases.
my mom is still in denial about some aspects of family relationships. she has 4 kids, 3 siblings, a father and many extended family members in recovery (and in need of recovery)
she is so blind to her part, amazingly blind. she has attended al anon a few times and I always encourage her to go more. I am an alcoholic (almost six years sober) and I am also an al anon member.
when we are in a dysfunctional relationship/s we need the WE
I agree with Taper...you never know where the message will come from, sometimes from the source that bugs you most! "you spot it you got it" type deal
trying to edit messages to someone else is like trying to control someone elses recovery...