It is terrifying. A major life change. Even staying two doors down is better than staying at home. He has to seek treatment. Not to generalize men, but many men feel that seeking professional help is a sign of weakness. That they're "crazy." Tell him that millions of people seek professional help. Successful doctors, lawyers, CEOs, etc. It's a strong, confident and smart man that realizes that he needs help and can't fight this illness alone. If he was diagnosed with cancer would he refuse radiation or chemo? If he broke his leg would he deny himself a cast and crutches? Alcoholism is the same thing. It's a DISEASE! It needs treatment! Doing it on his own obviously isn't working. Insainity is doinf the same thing over and over, expecting different results. He's sane if he gets help and crazy if he dosen't.