I'm not sure the best way to post on here if I should add new ones or just reply to this one but here it is...he didn't lose his temper with the kids last night but of course he was just drunk and irritating. He had a friend over who was in town for the holidays and they drank together. Later on he decides to talk about the affair I had a few months ago and how he's paranoid everyone knows and talking about it. After he found out about my affair he felt like it was his own drunk fault and we've been trying to work it out. He knows how I feel about his drinking and the way he treats the kids but he isn't trying hard enough. Then last night he just says to me he's sorry he's not a good husband before going to bed and sorry he's not more interesting and asks me if I plan to stay up all night. Now he has taken the kids to McDonalds to give me some alone time...I'm sure he will buy beer on the way home.