NeverQuit, say what you mean, and mean what you say. I know that sounds simple but if you are going to make boundaries what will you do when they are crossed? For years I tried setting boundaries but never backed what I said until my health was totally in the toilet that I finally made a stand and he never believed it until the day we were divorced and he was stunned because he never thought I would go ahead with it, sad huh? Please don't let yourself get to the point where you start going downhill especially with your health because it won't stop her drinking.