Forget the labels. If alcohol is causing problems with your family, marriage, job, or health, then it is time to decide not to drink or if a normal drinker cut back before you get hooked like I was.
I liked drinking when it was voluntary, not when it became mandatory.
If you can stop for a month and have no withdrawals then you may be able to moderate. If you can't stop after one drink, then you have to stop before.