Right, the fighting between us is a major factor in my wanting to separate. My son has seen it for years, and it tears me up. When my father was being emotionally and verbally abusive toward my mother all those years of me growing up, I often wished my mom would find a new boyfriend...and that is basically how my bf and I are toward each other now, but like I said, there are many times when we can sit in the same room and be amicable, but I am guessing the fact that I think about the time we spend together and comment on how there are "times" when we are amicable is a bad sign. Anyway, again I am just writing my way through my feelings about it all, not trying to make excuses.