http://www.kc-aa.org/
There's a complete list of all the meetings in Kansas City at the link above BrownEyes.
Also a phone number for the central office.
Might be good to call and see if you can speak to someone about the concerns you have about your prior AA experience.
Like Ken, I'll be thinking of you when we have a moment of silence tonight.
Best of luck to you and your husband.