As long as he is not in true recovery this will be your reality and clearly he has zero interest in recovery at this time.
I believe in interventions but many times the alcoholic is coerced into treatment and they simply are not interested or ready to embarq on the difficult journey to sobriety. They must want it more than they want a drink and be willing to do ANYTHING to beat the alcohol.
Life is a series of choices and as a poster shared above all of the sudden a lightbulb came on for her and illuminated the "truth" of her true situation. She then made a choice ... albeit a difficult one but a wise one and now wonders how she remained in such denial for so long.
That is the POWER of this forum... others shine a light with their ESH on our own lives that have mirrored where you are now and you get the benefit of our years of trying what you are contemplating ... hoping against hope for a miracle that your husband has no interest in currently!
I believe in hope... it gives us strength... but not wishful thinking. If wishes were horses we'd all be riding and our husbands would have gotten sober with a wave of wishful thinking wand. Love is not enough... sigh.
Like Alice at the crossroads who asked the Cheshire Cat "what way shall I go?" and the cat replied "It depends a great deal on where you wish to go to". Alice told the cat that it "didn't matter" and the wise cat replied "Then it doesn't matter what road you take if you walk long enough you will arrive somewhere"...
and so it is with us... we need to set goals and take the path that has a chance to get us WHERE we reallyh want to go! They can be small at first and can get more ambitious as we gain our own strength and confidence but we have to clearly see where we want to go.
For many of us who are now happy it was on the road that was alcohol free even if meant leaving our mate behind who chose to stay in an alcoholic state.
For myself I took a LOT of the wrong roads first ... all the signs except the hardest one which was the toughest choice! .... denial...denial ... denial.. until the pain got to be too much ... and the anger ...then the light comes on and illuminates the road before us.