Hi and
. I am sorry you are going through this. I also strongly suggest Al-Anon. I'd like to add that although I am not a lawyer, and I obviously do not know your family or situation intimately, Unless you are in some danger, I advise against moving out, for your children's sake. Know your rights and the law concerning separation and divorce in your state before making any major changes like moving out.
To answer your question whether or not her actions and words have "something to do with the recovery process and/or readjusting to the real world after being secluded to relationships with other users for a month" IMO, No. Dumping your family is not a part of Recovery from alcoholism, and not a part of readjusting from participating in Rehab.