OK, true--he might resent me and have a ton of anger. I'm sure some of that is in there somewhere. But not all of us drinkers wait 10, 20, 30 years to get sober. I recognized this problem early on and am trying to curtail it before it gets to the point some of you have witnessed in your loved ones.
I'll look up some Al-Anon and co-dependency resources--Thank you for the suggestions.
And also true, I am getting help from recovered alcoholics. I just feel badly for him. I guess I made a mistake in posting on the "friends and family" forum. I'm just a 36-year old mother of 2 who is struggling right now and I want to do the best I can do for my family.