It's not like he's a neighbor...needing to go on and live his own life! He's my husband! He loves me and he honestly wants to be supportive. He hasn't gotten to the point---where obviously you and others have gotten---where he resents me and has a ton of anger. As I know, this is a problem that affects the whole family. If I didn't care about him I'd just disregard him and let him live his "own life" while I live mine. Why even be married then?
And I know my husband. He avoids any confrontation with anyone...avoids hurting anyone's feelings even if he is seething inside...avoids all problems. So yes, he is an Avoider.
By the way, he has asked me how he can understand it and help. He didn't say, oh--you have a problem? Let me go live my life while you deal with this issue that I didn't create!!!