If it helps, people can think of themselves as incredibly powerful and in full and masterful control regarding drinking alcohol, not selfish or concerned with self in the least, fully matured individuals who are amazing specimens of mental health without the least character flaws and suffering zero defects in any way, with nothing required of them to do but to quit pouring that crap down their necks to be wonderful for ever and ever. And any time in the past they may have been a victim of circumstance and possibly stepped the tiniest bit out of line should never be mentioned and is best ignored and forgotten. And they are the greatest thing to ever appear under the sun since forever.
Completely fine with me as I don't care at all what others believe. Keeping that attitude removes me from the debating society while still allowing me to stay an interested observer of what happens and the results people obtain over the long haul with their various approaches and desperate certainties.