I have accepted my powerlessness of over alcohol, people, places, things and circumstances.
In this regard I can rest assured that there is nothing I can do or say that will make a person drink or not drink.
Therefore, these types of threads are quite irrelevant to the sobriety of others or myself. For me to say otherwise is to claim some power over alcohol.
I've often marveled at the concept that we should coddle the new guy and try not to upset him; people he's already upset, carry on.