Kitty,
Just some insight on one of my experiences. I went out "just to get out" several years ago trying to untangle my feelings for my ex-boyfriend. I did not feel ready, but did it anyway just to get out. The bottom line was, I was not emotionally ready, and I wound up in a worse relationship than the one I left!
This time, I am taking my time. I do not want to jump into anything unless I feel emotionally healed. For me, that would be a big mistake.
Of course, easier said than done. When you've been married for a while, sex gets to be important. I don't know how to advise you on that topic. I can only say, I would use discretion until you feel ready to be in a relationship.
Cheers,
Linda G