Hey utopia,
Love is a risk. But I have found that since I have been in Al-Anon, I am not as dependant on one person to fulfill everything in me. It takes a burden of my SO and I don't feel as let down when he stumbles or has a weak time and can't be supportive of me. I can lean on people in my group. And they can lean on me. That is something that I never experienced before.
Glad you joined us. These forums, along with Al-Anon and therapy, have been a great part of my recovery. I hope it becomes part of yours. Be sure to check out the "friends and families of alcoholics" forum, formerly known as the Al-Anon forum. Hugs, Magic