Your ABF sounds like my AH. He punishes people, but often his punishment is so subtle that they never notice, and then he gets more upset. In his case, he can keep up with the "punishments" for years. I ignore them.
He's also cynical and crabby. We used to joke that he was the youngest "grumpy old man" we had met. Some days I find it harder to ignore his constant cynical observations. I used to be the same but have made a HUGE effort to not be cynical anymore and I'm in a happier place now.
Can you post that passive aggressive article? I'd like to read it.