Crispyfan,
By all means reward/comfort yourself with a treat. I somehow feel that you don't quite get it yet, you can't drink. You are putting conditions around the drinking. The only condition for me, is not to drink.
You are very aware of where drinking takes you and you don't want to go there. What takes you there?
I am coming up to 7 months sober with the help of this forum and AA.
I hope I don't come off sounding curt but you sound like a lovely woman with a good life ahead of you, give up now so that you can enjoy that life to the fullest.
Perhaps put the guy on the "back burner" for the time being, you have come from an abusive relationship, time to heal.
All the best
CaiHong