OH, THE blame game.
I think the rules are specific:
Drink/ get drunk
Cause fight while drunk
come up with irrational scenario to blame partner, since accepting "fault" would lead to admission of being alcoholic.
Days/weeks/months later, OCCASIONALLY, IF sober, will talk, and admit partner was not to blame.
Drink/get drunk (lather, rinse, repeat).
Does not matter what the details of the fight are..if the core is drinking, it will be denied.
Fortunately for me, this was not a long term relationship, and in the middle of one episode, he used the "blame" as an excuse to end the relationship, and was with someone else in less than a week. I THINK (not sure) that when he finally did sober up and recognize that I had done nothing.. he already had done too much damage to repair.
The irony?? Even without the drinking, he apparently is running the same merry go round with her.. got into fight..wound up here, hoping to patch things up with me.
And the very next day, admitted to sitting down and talking with her, and backed out of his intent/ claims to work things out with me.
Lather, rinse, repeat.
It isn't you. Trust me.