Dolly, I thought I knew what a healthy boundary was...then I realized I tricked myself and that it was really a boundary for him, not me....
I educated myself (the stickies at the top of the page were useful) and really mulled over what an appropriate boundary would be. I mean it, I do, and even better, I wasn't mean when I said it...I think a huge part was also realizing it's MY boundary and if he doesn't approve, it's okay, cause it's mine.
Thank you for the encouragement and the words of wisdom. I too, hope I find the strength to stick to my boundaries and continue to focus on happiness for my child and me.