I guess I left out the part that all of those times he was leaving he was staying with her. Her FB message was the same day he came back home and he swears he left his clothes running from place to place but she has them. Then again as Anvilhead said, I really have no idea where he is when he is gone. I am assuming he is with her because it is a signifecant amout of time for her to believe he lived there as I believed he lived here. I know that the main problem is drugs but it was really painful to hear him admit that he was dealing with her for a year and loved her. Since addicts only love drugs then he told me a painful useless lie about loving her and watched me suffer.