I don't. After a year of chaos, overdosing, crisis, unexplained late night rants, then full relapse I quietly and gently said: "I will support you any way you choose to pursue recovery. BUT If you choose not to recover, you cannot be here.
I cannot, will not, live with the chaos of alcoholism or any addiction. Yes I'm heartbroken in a million ways. BUT I still made the right decision for me. When I come home, this home is my sanctuary. It is quiet, it is clean, it is peaceful and that is how I need to live.
I wish the very best for him that he finds his peace, whatever that means to him. It just won't be with me, so I grieve, and I move on.