Yes... I do. It is early days for me in discussing issues with my A and most days are OK. There is no physical abuse, but the emotional toll is mounting (on both sides of the fence). We are in discussions about what needs to be done and what needs to change so that our future will improve... I take that as progress. I do not make ultimatums and work very hard to set boundaries and maintain my dignity as well as that of the A. We are passed the point of recognizing the problems (she has admitted to being an alcoholic and I know that I have been codependent) and are slowly moving toward getting help... I have sought SR and that helps me tremendously and I am looking into going to Al-anon, she hasn't done anything concrete thus far except talk, but that is more than she did in the past. All I can do is take care of me...
In comparison, I know my situation could be a lot worse, but it could be so much better as well.