You are not the only person she has at this point! If she's in jail, there are people and resources for her. When my AD went to jail, she called to ask for money and effort on my part to get her a lawyer, help from her pprobation officer, etc. Sometimes she was nice, sometimes, pitiful, sometimes angry. She was detoxing cold turkey in jail so I was not surprised at her behavior. The court ordered into a rehab and she was thrown out after 2 days because she kept threatening to leave. They sent her back to jail where she got a psych eval and said she had a personality disorder but she was deemed competent for court. She chose to take the felonies and serve time rather than a lighter sentence with probation. Now she is out, living with an enabler, smoking pot, but saying she does not plan to go back to heroin. I hope she means it but I'm not holding my breath. Anyway, my point is that the courts have resources and can help her get the help she needs if she wants it.