Welcome to the SR family!
Thank you for taking the time to introduce yourself to the rest of the family!
I hope you will make yourself at home by reading and posting as much as needed. We are here to support you.
In my life, I have found that the active alcoholic will not uphold the visitation as established by the courts. It has been my experience that any opportunity that involves drinking will take precedence over visits with children. And my role as the sober parent is to allow that to happen.
I also learned that trying to force my ex-spouse to become an active parent after the divorce was not healthy. I had to check myself on that issue. I was trying to manipulate the other adult into becoming a role model parent when they clearly had other priorities.
I do not force visitation. I accept cancellations and make other plans. I look at is as I get to spend more time with my kids! Yeah me!
Try not to awfulize about a future conflict that may not happen. Stay in your now!