Thanks everyone
Windblown, yes, it is like a death and I think that is why in the beginning it is the hardest. Not that it ever gets easy but you eventually learn to live again.
Cynical and Ann, yeah the bond thing is wierd and not sure I believe that one. I paid bail for her one time and that was the only experience I have with it. You pay 10 percent, not half of ten percent. She was saying that there was still a couple hundred of that 10 percent that was not paid, that she had to pay that up today, but the bondsman was nice and so maybe she wouldn't get pu tback in jail if she didn't have the money, she just wasn't sure. I don't think that is the case at all.
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