Finality
Hello, checking in again.
Im legally and final divorced with sole custody (until he gets treatment , does well, pays support and petitions the court) He didnt even respond to papers. His mom told him when he finally called her after 6 weeks(for something of course) that he'd been divorced a few days and I put in papers he could call his son between 6 and 9 3 days a week.
So my attorney is drafting an amendment to modify the separate injunction petition to allow him to speak to me on phone only concerning D and so I can clear the call before handing D the phone.
Apparently, he's still not working, I dont even care anymore, one day Ill see a lil child support, but Ive survived this long without.
What a long recovery process for me. I joined here atleast 6 years ago under a different name. Swore I wouldnt give up, scared some of you into thinking Id die first and then one day I woke up, drove off and didnt return till house was mine, another year before I could file divorce and here we are.
The hardest part was the D word and finality, but no longer anything to do with him. Sadly that bond broke a long time ago, probably one of the nights my knees hit the floor and I was yelled at it was my fault and Im so dramatic. I pray for the girl he's with, but I believe she's seen enough if she stays she's no different than many of us. So I pary more for her child and our son.
Son did the psych test where you draw your house family and a tree. His results came out extremely well adjusted and accepting his dad was separate from us.
I had 1 crying spell the night I took my name back, but after that Im fine, lighter, healthier growing in leaps and bounds each day. I set appointments with my therapist once a month for next 6 months to help me continue to grow, learn me and not fall back into past patterns.
Today I have more life, more friends and more love than I ever thought possible.
We can break free and be successful and the pain can stop, we just have to push through it and want it bad enough.
Love you all