So I've been wanting to check out alanon because my fiance is an alcoholic and I feel like I really could use the support. Also, I definatly need to change the way I respond to him. I am an alcoholic too but I've been sober for almost 2 years. Anyway, because my parents aren't alcoholics I thought I wouldn't fit in. That maybe the "ism" has to be instilled at a young age. Well...I just read your post and could relate SO MUCH! Just as much as I related to the alcoholics in AA. Thank you so much for posting!! Good luck to you and your papa.