Thank you for your responses. I need to hear them all. I will get the book y'all suggest. I have been reading the stickies and posts of others. It is depressing and enlightening at the same time. I'm glad I found this sight, I know I am a big enabler and it has to stop. Fortunately, he hasnt stolen or sold anything, but he hasnt run out of money either. I had not really thought about what he would do if no money was available. It is a scary thought....