Originally Posted by
Terminally Unique 
If you believe in yourself, though, you won't have to reassure anyone else.
When I reassured my wife during the first year-ish of sobriety my reassurances had nothing to do with
my needs. Rather, these freely given assurances were intentional steps I took in an effort to create the kind of trusting, secure atmosphere that is critical to a healthy marriage and was impossible to attain/sustain while I was drinking.
SSIL75 - As far as the guilt is concerned, it helped me to adopt the belief that going forward I am charged to live in a way that honors and respects my deserving spouse. Some might call this a perpetual "amend". I'm not perfect, of course. But, the effort is totally worth it.