Originally Posted by
SSIL75 
I live a sober, mostly happy life and I guess that should be enough. But I feel like if I were the alcoholic's partner I'd be a wreck waiting for it to fall apart.
What has your experience been?
When I began to think of myself as a normal person who never drinks, as opposed to an alcoholic on the edge of relapse, this kind of thinking — fear, uncertainty, and doubt — went away. Just yesterday I was sent on an errand to buy alcohol by someone in my family, someone who had previously tried to send me off to "treatment," so I imagine that they can now sense that the problem is over. Actions speak louder than words, and your husband will probably sense your own fear, uncertainty, and doubt as well. If you believe in yourself, though, you won't have to reassure anyone else.