Hi tim56-
Welcome
Glad you're here - just as you know your husband would benefit from seeking and accepting help - so we know you will benefit from seeking and accepting help. Loving an A or living in an A family can be very isolating - even we may have friends but there is always that gnawing sick feeling of shame and dread about the home life. Yuk. It took work but I overcame those bad feelings and found peace of mind, whether my brothers drink or not I choose joy!
You're not alone (((hugs)))
Peace-
B