aah! you are me....your dad has the alcoholism traits...meaning whatever he grew up with..was brought into your home...your dad is an ADULT CHILD OF AN ALCOHOLIC..he too will benifit of this place and AL ANON...but thats him...
I go to AL ANON...did not know if i was in the right place or not, but again, the 12 steps and traditions call my name everyday....i just change the 1st step...
1. i am powerless of PEOPLE, PLACES, and THINGS...
and so on....
AL ANON will be good for you...i know its helped me so much with my relationships with my parents on so many levels...
also, your dad...well, these are his issues....
put yourself 1st and the children, because NO ONE ELSE WILL!!